best days

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/zen-of-friends-5-tips-feel-seriously-let-down/
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it.” ~Eckhart Tolle Has this ever happened to you? Something happens, some kerfuffle or other, like sickness, loss, or unexpected change. And just when you need it most, a friend—whom you considered true and dear—doesn’t stand by you. You feel betrayed. Painful, isn’t it? Painful like the stabbing of 1,000 knives that each bears 100 tiny knives. (So, 100,000 knives in total) This happened to me a few years ago. I’d just graduated from college when I became unwell with chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS). One of the benefits of CFS is that you have plenty of time to work through things. I was angry with many friends, and disappointed. But gradually, I came to see that they weren’t the problem—I was. Like most people I had a set of ideals about what a good friend is: A good friend agrees with you, listens to you, stands by you in hard times, and bakes you cookies when you need cookies. The trouble is, thinking about friendship in these terms—even though this is how we’re taught to think of friendship—is not very, well, friendly. It can keep us stuck feeling resentful, and make us act selfish and unkind.